Festival Etiquette Part 2: STFU (Seriously, Just Shut the F*%k Up)

There’s a moment at every show — that perfect, soul-melting moment — when the crowd falls quiet, the band drops into something deep, and the vibe shifts into magic.

And then…

“Oh my god, I haven’t seen you since college! Wait, didn’t your cat have diabetes?!”

No. Just no.

Please.

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Concerts Aren’t Cocktail Parties

If you came to the show to socialize, travel back down memory lane, or narrate your weekend to your friends — We get it. We all love to connect. But read the room.

People drop serious money to be there, many travel long distances. They plan their lives around these shows. For most concert-goers, this is sacred space. Music is our medicine, our therapy, our community ritual. And when you treat the moment like background noise, you’re not just being rude — you’re breaking the collective good vibe AND it’s very disrespectful to the musicians. (Yes, they hear you too!)

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Respect the Vibe

This isn’t about being the concert police. But if the person next to you is trying to melt into a guitar solo and you’re three rows back loudly reminiscing about brunch plans, it’s time to pipe down.

If you came to dance, cry, sway, or just breathe it all in — you get it. And if you’re reading this, you’re probably one of the good ones.

But let’s be real — every crowd has That Person.

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Flashback to Part 1: The Blanket Invasion

If you read Part 1, you’ll remember the couple who literally stood on our blanket during a show. I could’ve lost it. But instead, I let it ride for a few songs — the music was too good to waste on childish drama, and besides our friends weren’t using the space at that moment anyway.

After three songs (and knowing my friends would be back soon), I turned to the couple, and politely offered them a hit on my joint, and said:

“Hey you guys, this is my friends’ spot and they’ll be back any minute — so we’ll need to give them space, OK?”

They respected it. No bad vibes. Our friends returned. They moved over. Peace was restored.

Kindness is the strongest move you can make. It doesn’t always work as some people are just assholes, but the majority of people do respond favorably to kindness.

What definitely doesn’t work is getting angry, upset, or worse, resulting to violence. Not only do those things kill the vibe, it could result in a lot worse. Don’t lose your cool just because others aren’t cool. It’s just not worth it.

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Moral of the Story: Be Cool, Not Loud

• If someone’s bothering you? Be kind, but clear. Ask them politely to hold until there is a break in the music.
• Offer a hit if that’s your vibe — even if they say no, it breaks the tension.
• Remember: concerts are shared spaces. We’re all there for the same reason — the music.

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Share the Love (Not the Small Talk)

Stay Tuned Next week I’ll be sharing more in our Festival Etiquette Series – Part 3: “Me and My 50 Friends”

Got your own etiquette story? The space invaders, the Chatty Cathies, the entitled ones. What’s yours? Drop it in the comments or DM me on Instagram — I might feature it in a follow-up post.

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